Lack of Balance is a Widespread Issue

When realizing that I was ready to launch this executive coaching business, I interviewed about 100 women and asked them, “What is your greatest challenge?” Ninety-nine of them told me the same thing: Work-Life Balance. It doesn’t matter if you have small kids, grown kids, step kids or no kids; the challenge of managing the logistics of home and life are, at times, simply overwhelming.

I often ask women, how do they do it? How do they manage a career and a balanced life? Here are some things to consider that I’ve learned over time:

1. Change! Realize that the balance equation changes daily, weekly, annually. And, when you are single the demands are different than when you are married. Throw young kids in the mix and the dynamics change again. It’s okay to stay home with your kids, put your career on hold, go part time. Be comfortable with change.

2. Unique! You are unique. No one else has the same standards, values and schedule that you do. As much as you can learn from others, you have to create the system that works for you. And, by the way, who cares what other people think? Ignore those who will judge you.

3. Help! Most women are terrible at asking for help. So, they do it all. And, they are unhappy and exhausted. They may hint around to their husbands/partners that would like support around the house or they may subtly suggest that having someone clean for them would be nice. Just get some help to ease the burden.

At the end of every day, you need to ask yourself: do you enjoy what you are doing at work and at home? What is throwing off your balance? Then, if needed, take measures to change things.

On Balance

“If you neglect to recharge a battery, it dies. And if you run full-speed ahead without stopping for water, you lose momentum to finish the race.”

–Oprah Winfrey

Is Work Life Balance Improving?

Unfortunately, it appears that work life balance isn’t getting better here in the United States. This study prepared by SHRM last year suggests that 54% of American’s call the work/balance issue a “significant” one.

Companies today need to care for the “whole person.” Work/Life balance is about how employees feel at home and at work and one impacts the other. When your employees can’t focus on their home responsibilities, their work will suffer. Of course, when you help to create balance for your employees, you get higher productivity and happier employees.

This isn’t breaking news. So why, then, is it still a problem? I’d love to hear from you about ways you’ve been able to help improve this balance for your employees!

Quick Tip for Work Life Balance

When you’re helping your key leaders stay on top of their game, sometimes a little simple advice can make a big difference. Here’s one idea you can give them for managing work-life balance:

For those women with traditional 9-5 job and kids, encourage them to figure out a system or a person that can help with dinner a few nights a week. Otherwise, they will drive themselves crazy every single day.

Taking an easy step to eliminate this source of stress will change the dynamics of a working woman’s life significantly.

And, if you have kids you should try it too. It’s a great tip for any working woman, at any level of her career!

Woman of the Week – Amy Reilly

Amy Reilly

My Current Job/Company:
Vice President, Organizational Effectiveness at Standard Register in Dayton, Ohio.

My Birthdate:
October 29

My Work:
Responsible for providing the design and implementation of all human resources strategies-organization development, talent acquisition, compensation and benefits, communications and public relations, governance, branding, security, labor relations, facilities and affirmative action/diversity.

My Passion:
My family, My friends, My Work

My Family:
Pete (Husband) and my daughters, Shannon (15) and Megan (12)

My Heroes:
Jim and Molly Slatt (my parents).  Simply put, they are the best!

My Escape:
Anywhere where I can relax with my family/friends—just enjoying the “moments”

My Pet Peeve:
Pessimists/Negative people.  They can suck the life right out of you if you let them.

My Indulgences:
Getting pedicures with my girlfriends, shopping and purses

My Roots:
Grew up in the small town of Bellbrook, Ohio.  A strong, nurturing and supportive family unit, I am an only child—I always wanted an older sister or brother!

My Future:
Busy, Challenging and Fulfilling

My Love:
My daughters.  I love both of their unique personalities.  I am just trying to hold on to every moment of them growing up.

My Movie:
There are so many great movies—Grease, Top Gun, The Notebook, The Hangover

My Quote on Life:
“Do not follow where the path may lead.  Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

My Accessory:
My Purses, and my BlackBerry

My Advice to Young Women:
Make a commitment to network and connect with high achieving women on a regular basis—learn everything you can from them.  Be a good listener/observer. Also, do what you LOVE, don’t settle for anything less.

How I Balance it All:
Am I balancing it all?!  HA!  It is a day-to-day challenge.  I am extremely fortunate that my parents live close by.  I count on them for so much!! My husband is a huge help too.  He is always willing to step in and help out. I have always been very disciplined and organized-at home and at work. My daughters would probably tell you I am organized to the extreme!  But, I think you have to be in order to hold it all together in this fast-paced, crazy, over-scheduled world we live in.

Embrace Your Young Professionals

In my experience, young professionals are getting a bad rap. People claim they feel entitled, they are too casual, they don’t want to work 40-hour work weeks. They say these “kids” are connected to technology not relationships. I am here to tell you differently! I have hired several interns over the past four years and each one has completely knocked my socks off.

Like you, I believed the stereotypes and I set my expectations low. I was concerned about results as I brought each one on. And, each one overwhelmed me with their level of productivity, professionalism and all around positive attitude.

Of course, I knew it was important to create a structure to help them be successful. While these were short term internships, I did talk to them extensively about what was important to them in full time employment. Here’s what I learned:

• Work/Life Balance: No surprise here; we have heard it often. Young professionals don’t want to be tied to an office for no reason. They want balance. So, I allowed my interns to work from home and did not “watch the clock.” They were incredibly productive and usually got the job done much quicker than I ever anticipated!

• Respect Ideas: Don’t treat young employees as if they don’t know anything. Encourage engagement and ask them what they think. Even if they don’t have an opinion ask them to research the topic and come back to you with an informed point of view. Believe me, they can get online and find information much faster than most.

• Social Engagement: Show how your company makes a difference in the community and cares about the environment. Young professionals and specifically the millennials like to work for “green” organizations. This is high on their list of important attributes when deciding who to work for and with. Show them that your company not only gives back but pays forward. If your company hasn’t even put a recycling program in place (and you’d be surprised how many have not) you better get one going if you want to entice quality young professionals to come and work for you.

• Career Path: Young professionals want advancement, fast! They are ready to hit the ground running and if you don’t show them upward mobility, they will leave. They like to see lots of steps and progression. Remember, these were the kids who are known as the “trophy kids” – the ones who were constantly receiving awards and feeling good about finishing. They are wired this way.

The fact is, the average tenure of a young professional is only about 3.5 years. They just don’t see the value on long-term employment the way previous generations do. Who can blame them? After their parents dedicated their entire lives to their employers, many of them have lost their jobs in the past few years.

If you recognize that working with this new generation of employees is going to be different and embrace their unique attributes, you can experience what I did – that these young professionals have a desire for meaningful work, they are incredibly quick with technology and they are enormously productive.

Besides, you’ll never have to buy them a company lap top – they already have their own!

Quote of the Day: On Young Professionals

“Young people are fitter to invent than to judge; fitter for execution than for counsel; and more fit for new projects than for settled business.”

– Francis Bacon

Millennials: They’re Here to Stay

Yes, we all talk a lot about today’s workforce and their unique attributes and downsides. But the fact is, these 75 million workers are a critical part of our workforce today and they are our future leaders. And they aren’t going to change their outlook on work, life and how it all fits together so it’s up to us to adjust to accommodate them. And, if we’re honest with ourselves, we know they’ll probably help teach us better ways of approaching recruiting and retention.

For some terrific strategies for working with this dynamic group of employees, check out the article Advice for Managing Millennials on GlassHammer.com. Authors Terri Klass and Judith Lindenberger take a deep dive into what makes the workers of this generation tick and best practices for getting the most out of them.

Do you have some insights and strategies that have worked for you? Tell us about them!

Woman of the Week – Sara Burris

Sara Burris

My Current Job/Company:
Student Finance Consultant

My Birthdate:
02.10.81

My Work:
I assist undergraduate and graduate students with financial aid packages, managing their accounts and keeping them motivated and on target to obtain their educational goals. I encourage responsible borrowing practices and ensure that they are reaching their highest potential.

My Passion:
I am extremely passionate about maintaining close and healthy relationships with my family and friends. They are the consistent factor in my life that bring such joy and motivation in many different ways. I feel that every individual in my life makes me a better person in one way or another. I also have a major addiction to travel. Each trip makes me grow into a more cognizant individual and expands my way of looking at life. I love submerging myself into new cultures and learning as much about different lifestyles as I can. It would be my dream to start a business in Costa Rica due to it’s natural beauty, proud citizens, and the “enjoy every minute of your life” mentality. It’s always so important to take a step back and smell the fresh air. That is what travel does for me.

My Family:
Austin (Husband) Louis (our lovable French Bulldog), Bentley and Bronson (our feline family members)

My Hero:
My Grandmother. I can honestly say she was the most inspiring person in my life, and I can only dream to be as positive and compassionate as she was.

My Escape:
Being in Costa Rica with my husband (I get a weightless feeling there) or looking at photos of past trips/family/friends

My Pet Peeve:
People who are consistently late, arrogance

My Indulgence:
I am a dessert fanatic!

My Roots:
Hard working, generous, humble, loving.

My Future:
Unknown…but that is what I love about it. I promise myself that no matter what happens I will always land on my feet with a positive attitude!

My Love:
My husband. He is such an incredible person and makes me want to better myself.

My Movie:
Second Hand Lion. Great movie…and it does not hurt that there is a french bulldog in the film 😉

My Quote on Life:
Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

My Accessory:
My wedding ring (This makes me think I need more accessories)

My Advice to Young Women:
Have confidence in yourself and your goals. Everyone can make a difference in the world big or small.

How I Balance it All:
I stay insanely organized and write myself many goal sheets and notes (yes, I write things down on paper..archaic I know, but I love physically checking things off my lists). I keep my word on every promise and that is what keeps me motivated to squeeze everything in. I am constantly re-prioritizing and hold myself highly accountable to finish tasks both work related and personal. If I am given a goal I am going to meet that goal no matter what it takes. I am a perfectionist sometimes to a fault, but I cannot let anyone including myself down. I also take a step back and put things into perspective. I never want to get stressed over the little things…I ensure this does not happen by thinking of those less fortunate to make my problems seem minimal. Suddenly, that load of laundry that did not get done does not seem to be a viable issue.

Keep Your Superstars Shining Bright

As managers, we are tasked with so many tactical and strategic activities in any given month, week, or day. One of the more important tasks is to manage, lead and inspire your best players.

So what do you do when your best players are tired? It happens. They get worn down, worn out and just plain tired of their role. And, sometimes, there is not a lot of wiggle room to expand their position, give them stretch assignments or move them up the career ladder.

So, how do you help them rekindle their passion for their work?

I am not talking about trying to create a spark where there is no ambition. I don’t mean motivating the employee who was never motivated to begin with. I mean, recharging your superstars and reigniting the flames under your best and brightest.

Here are a few simple techniques to inspire and stimulate your top performers:

1. Give them a research assignment. Get them outside of the office and introduce them to someone outside of the business for some networking and research time. This will give them new surroundings and environment and help bring a fresh perspective to their work.

2. Put them in charge of something that is currently on your plate. And, tell them that. It does two things: it frees up some of your time to be more strategic and gives them a sense of significance and importance.

3. Sign them up for some leadership development work and have them train the rest of your team on whatever they learned. This gives them some new coaching opportunities and will encourage them to think through the experience in such a way that they can share with others. Plus, you’re getting great information out to your other team members as well.

Remember, even the brightest stars experience burn out sometimes. Continue to invest in your best and you’ll keep them shining through the good times and the challenging times as well.

Do you have suggestions for ways to keep your emerging leaders inspired? Please share!